I get it. You have specific needs…desires. That is what led you to find me in the first place. You want to have a great first call, so you think to visit my “About Me” page and find out what types of calls I enjoy; and what types of calls are a no-go with me. Smart!
You will find that while I welcome a wide variety of fun fetishes and role plays, I do have some limits. What are limits? Keep reading. Every healthy person has limits. What you may not have considered is asking me if I can come up with a creative way to work with your desires while maintaining my boundaries. Most of the time, the answer is “yes”.
Giving You What You Need
One thing I am known for is giving exceptional customer service. You are my customer. It is my desire to fulfill your needs, flesh out your fantasies, and blow your mind with the results. That kind of experience is worth the exchange of a few emails.
Run your desires past me. I will give it some thought and if I can come up with a way to fill your needs, I will let you know. You may find that the result surprisingly is even more hot than what you had been doing before. Sharing your desires with your phone sex Mistress is the best way to begin the relationship.
Let’s say that you enjoy a beautiful woman sucking your cock. Understandable. However, being a dominant woman, I am not into cock sucking at all. However…bear with me…I can create a smoking hot role play where I bring in a few of my sexy submissive female friends. I direct them to suck your cock in ways that will have your head spinning.
Perhaps you long to perform pussy worship. Again, that is not something I will allow you to do to me in session. But…I love to be close at hand and direct you in how you worship the heart of another woman’s femininity. Absolutely! It is hot and I get into it. I have mentioned it before, but I will underscore how much of a voyeur I am. And, I am a natural director. Do you suppose that has something to do with being a natural Domme?
I cannot promise that I will be able to find a way to satisfy every desire you have. But with my strong mission to give you a top notch quality session and attempt to break any previous records for how hard you came, it is worth chatting with me a bit to find out.
Read my reviews to find out what others say about me and sessions with me. I am worth going to some effort to find a way for your desires and my limits to mesh. Mmmm…meshing can be so very sexy.
The first time I dominated a male, I was such a novice and rather nervous. All of my attention was focused on covering that up, and on what I was doing with him. But after that, I noticed that BDSM had a very spiritual feel to it. My natural instinct was to embrace this as the core essence of the BDSM experience.
When I mentioned this to the other Mistresses and Masters at the club I belonged to a few years later, all but one looked at me like I suddenly went mental. They had no idea what I was talking about. The one person who did was a fabulous woman who had been a lifestyle Mistress for over 30 years. We launched into a deep discussion on the topic of the spiritual side of BDSM. I am still very passionate about this subject.
Avoid Preconceived Notions
In far too many movies, and just about all porn, BDSM is depicted as an emotionless, violent interaction. It is rare to see a loving, caring moment by the Dominant for their submissive. I believe this has led to most people viewing BDSM as something dark and scary. Perhaps my innate ability to avoid preconceived notions is what allowed me to see the truth.
A genuine BDSM relationship is deeply caring or loving. There is mutual respect, and abundant importance on trust. There must be trust in order for the submissive to feel safe about allowing a person to have total control and access to them. Like other types of relationships, first there is an attraction. The difference is that the sexual interaction tends to begin very early in the relationship.
In the Midst of a BDSM Scene
When you are the submissive and in a scene with your Mistress/Master, you can expect that your pre session negotiations limits will be honored throughout the session. They may be pushed a little bit, but never overrun.
Between experiencing erotic pain such as spanking, flogging, caning, whipping, or clamps, there will be welcome moments of tenderness. Your Mistress will caress you, kiss you deeply, whisper words of caring, praise and encouragement, and fondle you most pleasurably. This will be followed by another interlude of pain. Each cycle taking you higher and higher into sub space, that place where you are floating in bliss with your Mistress by your side.
The Spiritual Side of BDSM
I do realize that this type of BDSM is not for everyone. There are those who only enjoy harsh treatment, rough experiences, and pure humiliation with no respite. But a more spiritual interaction is my strong preference. That is true whether you prefer sensual, strict, or a mix of both. Any style of Domination can involve this spiritual core.
If you have never experienced this, it may be that you have not tried forming a relationship with one Mistress and allowing it to flourish fully. Perhaps you have not yet found the right Mistress for you. I suggest that you do give this element of BDSM a try so that you can experience the highest intensity that a Mistress and submissive can share. The epitome of a relationship.
Have you had the pleasure of experiencing this already? What did you enjoy about it?
I love spanking. The effects of spanking have been reassuringly predictable over the years. Usually when I have someone over my lap, pants pulled down to their ankles, and tush on display, their penis gets incredibly hard. I know this because it is poking down between my thighs. I clamp my thighs around it, to both tease them and to remind them further of exactly who is in charge.
Recently I was spanking someone who told me that though they were very excited, their penis was not hard. Here are the words they said, “Well…a brat’s stiffy is iffy”. Of course I burst into laughter. I had to take a few moments to gather myself to continue reddening his bottom. Later I gave this episode more thought.
The Effects of Spanking
Like any other fetish, different people are affected differently. This really should not have been a surprise. I suppose that because I am so enthusiastic about tanning hineys, and my spankees have always been so rigid with ecstasy, I thought it would always be that way.
That is much like presuming that every man will produce pre-cum. Not true. Or every man will shoot his load across the room. Not often true. So much for preconceived notions. When your reaction is to get very excited but remain limp, know that leaves room for humiliation.
See? Brat’s Stiffy is Iffy
Do You Think This is the Reason?
This particular spankee was being quite a brat. Purposefully and gleefully giving me a hard time. Mistress does not like that, so I was spanking harder and letting him know just what I thought of his bratty behavior. It occurs to me that this guy may have put so much energy into his bratty behavior and sass talk, that he had little energy left to stiffen his cock.
Now that you know a brat’s stiffy is iffy, hopefully you will think twice about being a naughty spankee. No doubt you want your penis to get hard…you want to cum. It really does not matter to me. I enjoy the sensations involved in spanking you. I will get that no matter what the outcome is for you. So it is on you to behave yourself. Have a little dignity, in this most vulnerable position. You don’t want an iffy stiffy, now do you?
We have a new website called MasturbationAffirmation.com. If you are new to affirmations, they are statements that you want to be true, but are not yet true for you. Generally these affirmations are said to achieve a personal goal.
Knowing how much you love to stroke your cock, I decided to create an affirmation for masturbation. If you would like to be masturbating more, this may make me the Masturbatrix of your dreams.
How Does This Work?
You may be thinking, how can saying something make something true? Because the brain is listening and learning. For instance, when you tell yourself that “masturbation is good for you“, your brain perks up and thinks, “Is that right? I always suspected so.” It begins to tell you to masturbate more often.
You say specific affirmations twice daily in a specific way until you feel it to be true. Read the details about how to do this and what to say. Plus, you will find some very sexy photos of me to masturbate to. *wink*
If you are a chronic stroker, this is just the thing for you. You will be able to top your personal best. If you are simply curious to see if this will make a difference in your masturbation frequency, do the affirmations for two weeks.
It is very important to follow my directions on the link provided, to get the full affect. Otherwise, you are unlikely to see the results your wicked mind is hoping for. And I never want you to be disappointed.
I would love to hear from you about your experience with this. You know my background is in the field of mental health. Everything is game for a scientific experiment…including your masturbation!
You are going to be masturbating more. Ready…set…stroke!
This is more than simply a way to make money. And you are more than just a client. You really are a gift to me.
You light up my life, you show me true submission and devotion, you add laughter to my days and nights, and have become a true friend of this FemDom Mistress.
Wave of Mistress Gratitude
I start every day with verbally stating what I am grateful for. That is important to me. This time of year, I find myself even more grateful for you. How lucky I am to have you in my life. Your trust and respect are gifts I treasure.
Yes, we met through a phone domination service. So what? You are in my life and I am in yours. This is a real connection and it means something to me. I trust you feel that in our sessions.
Let Me Give Back to You
You give to me all year long. Calling me, sending me lovely gifts and even virtual bouquets. All of that is so appreciated. It touches my heart. Now let me give back to you.
You have told me, more than once, that your favorite photos of me are in the red mini dress with black knee high socks. That is why I chose one of those photos for the special Christmas photo above. I hope that pleases you. Feel free to look at it again and again. Allow me to make it clear that you are a special part of my life. Now, and throughout the year.
Another Gift for You
One gift was not enough. I want to give you something else to show you how much you mean to me. At the bottom of this post is an audio that will only be posted here on my main blog. Only you, my most devoted submissive, will hear it.
Know that what is contained in this audio comes from my heart. Embrace my Mistress gratitude and feel the love.
Merry Christmas darling!
To listen to my special audio, click the far left end of the bar below:
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This is the same attitude I developed years ago when I discovered BDSM. It is an attitude that I know you would recognize. The Mistress Attitude. It can be so subtle that people outside of the scene would not recognize it for what it is. . . . → Read More: Mistress Attitude
You have read the story of Goldilocks. What you did not know is that the real story revolves around a very adult topic. It is about finding the right cock. For who? Why, for you, of course! Because anal play is fabulous and not just a fairytale.