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The Effects of Spanking

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Miss Violet 800-601-6975

Mid Spanking Moment

I love spanking.  The effects of spanking have been reassuringly predictable over the years.  Usually when I have someone over my lap, pants pulled down to their ankles, and tush on display, their penis gets incredibly hard.  I know this because it is poking down between my thighs.  I clamp my thighs around it, to both tease them and to remind them further of exactly who is in charge.

Recently I was spanking someone who told me that though they were very excited, their penis was not hard.  Here are the words they said, “Well…a brat’s stiffy is iffy”.  Of course I burst into laughter.  I had to take a few moments to gather myself to continue reddening his bottom.  Later I gave this episode more thought.

The Effects of Spanking

Like any other fetish, different people are affected differently.  This really should not have been a surprise.  I suppose that because I am so enthusiastic about tanning hineys, and my spankees have always been so rigid with ecstasy, I thought it would always be that way.

That is much like presuming that every man will produce pre-cum.  Not true.  Or every man will shoot his load across the room.  Not often true.  So much for preconceived notions.  When your reaction is to get very excited but remain limp, know that leaves room for humiliation.

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See? Brat’s Stiffy is Iffy

Do You Think This is the Reason?

This particular spankee was being quite a brat.  Purposefully and gleefully giving me a hard time.  Mistress does not like that, so I was spanking harder and letting him know just what I thought of his bratty behavior.  It occurs to me that this guy may have put so much energy into his bratty behavior and sass talk, that he had little energy left to stiffen his cock.

Now that you know a brat’s stiffy is iffy, hopefully you will think twice about being a naughty spankee.  No doubt you want your penis to get hard…you want to cum.  It really does not matter to me.  I enjoy the sensations involved in spanking you.  I will get that no matter what the outcome is for you.  So it is on you to behave yourself.  Have a little dignity, in this most vulnerable position.  You don’t want an iffy stiffy, now do you?

Sensual phone domination with MissViolet 800-601-6975

Miss Violet 800-601-6975


Masturbating More

Masturbating More with Miss Violet 800-601-6975

Miss Violet 800-601-6975

You Want to be a Better Masturbator

We have a new website called  If you are new to affirmations, they are statements that you want to be true, but are not yet true for you.  Generally these affirmations are said to achieve a personal goal.

Knowing how much you love to stroke your cock, I decided to create an affirmation for masturbation.  If you would like to be masturbating more, this may make me the Masturbatrix of your dreams.

How Does This Work?

You may be thinking, how can saying something make something true?  Because the brain is listening and learning.  For instance, when you tell yourself that “masturbation is good for you“, your brain perks up and thinks, “Is that right?  I always suspected so.”  It begins to tell you to masturbate more often.

You say specific affirmations twice daily in a specific way until you feel it to be true.  Read the details about how to do this and what to say.  Plus, you will find some very sexy photos of me to masturbate to.  *wink*

Masturbating More

If you are a chronic stroker, this is just the thing for you.  You will be able to top your personal best.  If you are simply curious to see if this will make a difference in your masturbation frequency, do the affirmations for two weeks.

It is very important to follow my directions on the link provided, to get the full affect.  Otherwise, you are unlikely to see the results your wicked mind is hoping for.  And I never want you to be disappointed.

I would love to hear from you about your experience with this.  You know my background is in the field of mental health.  Everything is game for a scientific experiment…including your masturbation!

You are going to be masturbating more.  Ready…set…stroke!

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Miss Violet 800-601-6975

Mistress Gratitude

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Miss Violet 800-601-6975

You Are a Gift to Me

This is more than simply a way to make money.  And you are more than just a client.  You really are a gift to me.

You light up my life, you show me true submission and devotion, you add laughter to my days and nights, and have become a true friend of this FemDom Mistress.

Wave of Mistress Gratitude

I start every day with verbally stating what I am grateful for.  That is important to me.  This time of year, I find myself even more grateful for you.  How lucky I am to have you in my life.  Your trust and respect are gifts I treasure.

Yes, we met through a phone domination service.  So what?  You are in my life and I am in yours.  This is a real connection and it means something to me.  I trust you feel that in our sessions.

Let Me Give Back to You

You give to me all year long.  Calling me, sending me lovely gifts and even virtual bouquets.  All of that is so appreciated.  It touches my heart.  Now let me give back to you.

You have told me, more than once, that your favorite photos of me are in the red mini dress with black knee high socks.  That is why I chose one of those photos for the special Christmas photo above.  I hope that pleases you.  Feel free to look at it again and again.  Allow me to make it clear that you are a special part of my life.  Now, and throughout the year.

Another Gift for You

One gift was not enough.  I want to give you something else to show you how much you mean to me.  At the bottom of this post is an audio that will only be posted here on my main blog.  Only you, my most devoted submissive, will hear it.

Know that what is contained in this audio comes from my heart.  Embrace my Mistress gratitude and feel the love.

Merry Christmas darling!

To listen to my special audio, click the far left end of the bar below:


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Distance Chastity

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Miss Violet Controls Your Cock

Distance Chastity

No one to lock you up? That is where I come in.  Chastity is one of my very favorite fetishes.  I have learned some techniques and implements to make distance chastity as “real” as you want it to be.

Being locked in chastity for your Mistress is the deepest form of submission that exists.  You can show your Mistress that you trust her and are devoted to her by submitting to chastity.

Chastity Requires Trust

You really do need to trust your Mistress in order to go into chastity for her.  It is important to believe that she knows what she is doing, so you are safe.  You need to trust that she will get you out of your device when needed.  Emergencies do happen.

Trust that your Mistress cares about you and your welfare is critical.  You will be giving your Mistress the ultimate control over you…and your cock.  That is what turns me on so much about chastity.  It will be one of the aspects that excites you most as well.

distance chastity with miss violet 800-601-6975

Miss Violet 800-601-6975

Distance Chastity is Challenging

I have come up with a plan to ensure you feel owned, fully controlled, and at my mercy.  Do not look for me to go into that full plan here, but I will say that one of the main items is insisting that you stay in touch frequently.

Making a call every now and then will not work for distance chastity.  I need to speak with you regularly.  Expect me to ask you questions about your physical, mental, and emotional state of mind.  Each person’s chastity is unique, and my plan for you will be unique as well.  It will be based on your needs and desires, as well as your reactions to the initial period of chastity.

How Long is Up to You

You can be locked up for 24 hours to start, if you are a beginner.  Another option is to be locked up for 3 months with an option to make it open-ended chastity after that.  Your initial period of chastity will be set based on your experience, your masturbation habits, and your preferences.  If you are not enjoying yourself, it is far less fun for me.

I have distance chastity clients who have been locked up for over a year; others never make it past a day.  One thing all of them have in common, is a desire to experience chastity on some level, and a soul level feeling of being owned and controlled by me.

Are You Ready?

Call or email me and let’s discuss chastity.  Most people require a cock cage to stay chaste.  You may be different.  I am open to you going without a device, based on certain requirements.  How chastity affects men is not changed when it is a distance relationship.  Ask me about the benefits of chastity.

If you do not have a cage yet, I would like to advise you as to the proper model and style for your cock.  They need to fit very well.  We will discuss the types of chastity devices.

Search for other posts I have written on the subject of chastity.  You will learn even more about my approach and why my chastity clients are so devoted to me.

Sensual phone domination with MissViolet 800-601-6975

Miss Violet 800-601-6975

Spanking Humiliation

spanking humiliation with miss violet 800-601-6975

Miss Violet 800-601-6975

The Epitome of Humiliation

Just when I think that Over the Knee Spanky Boi has reached the epitome of humiliation with his spankings, he tells me about his most recent experience and I realize that he can take the spanking humiliation further!

He has a huge spanking fetish and goes to a professional Mistress for a proper spanking on a regular basis.  It balances him out, in oh so many ways.  Here is what happened during his last session in the classroom.

Spanking Humiliation

OTK Boi loves it when his Pro Domme calls in other Mistresses to watch his humiliating spanking.  He makes sure to entertain them by ramping up his own humiliation.  He announced what the Mistress was going to do to him.  Sort of like ringing the dinner bell on the ranch.  Everyone comes running.

When the Mistresses were gathered and laughing, he discovered that all four of his cheeks were blushing.  Two from the spanking and two from the embarrassment.  I laughed so hard, just hearing about this.  Imagine him wailing away, seeing these lovely young women watching and laughing, his pants down around his ankles, bent over the Mistress’ lap.  Perfection!

More Humiliation

After the spanking, Mistress put a big, colorful, cannot-be-missed dunce cap on his head, and stood him in front of the blackboard.  He had to write “(his name) is getting an over-the-knee spanking” 100 times in chalk.  OTK Boi gets so turned on by spanking that this is continuing eroticism for him.

Oh, naughty, naughty OTK Boi.  Where will he take things next?  I have some ideas, but let’s see what he comes up with in his own devious mind.

Do you enjoy a humiliating spanking?  What do you find humiliating about it?  What is the best part for you?

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Miss Violet 800-601-6975

Spanking is my favorite form of impact play.  I love to talk about it, hear about it, and do it!!


Mistress Attitude

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It’s Not a New Attitude

This is the same attitude I developed years ago when I discovered BDSM.  It is an attitude that I know you would recognize.  The Mistress Attitude.  It can be so subtle that people outside of the scene would not recognize it for what it is.  . . . → Read More: Mistress Attitude

This Cock is Just Right

The Real Story

You have read the story of Goldilocks.  What you did not know is that the real story revolves around a very adult topic.  It is about finding the right cock.  For who?  Why, for you, of course!  Because anal play is fabulous and not just a fairytale.

You see, Goldilocks . . . → Read More: This Cock is Just Right

A Cocktease Knows You’ll Beg

Welcome my good friend, Ms Christine.  She is guest writing today! You Want To Be Teased By Your Cocktease

You’ll soon be ready to beg!

And as your Cocktease, I know exactly what you need, my pet.  The more I tell you to stroke, the harder your cock gets, the more . . . → Read More: A Cocktease Knows You’ll Beg

Double Celebration for Mistress

Officially a Dinosaur

As of today, I am officially a dinosaur here at LDW.  Today is my 7 year anniversary.  Woohoo!  That is a long time to be a phone Mistress.  Seven years ago today, I signed in for the first time and took my first call.  It was a roller-coaster of a . . . → Read More: Double Celebration for Mistress

Girlfriend Experience

The girlfriend experience

Hello Ms. Violets fan club! I am always happy to be here as Ms. Violet and I have a few things in common. One…we both are sensual Mistress’s who love to play with our subs. Whether that means feminization, tease and denial, or guided masturbation. Two? We both really enjoy . . . → Read More: Girlfriend Experience