Comments for Pleasure Phone Sex - brought to you by LDW Group http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com 800-601-6975 Must be 18+ Sat, 14 Jan 2012 07:05:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 Comment on Keeping Your Fetish Secret by Empress Violet http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/2011/11/keeping-your-fetish-secret/comment-page-1/#comment-11398 Empress Violet Sat, 14 Jan 2012 07:05:00 +0000 http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/?p=7025#comment-11398 Davina, thank you for sharing so much about your thoughts on sharing the secret of your fetish, and your personal relationship. Reading what you had to say, I understand why your wife was able to see the eroticism in cross dressing. Like I have said, keep it light...keep it fun...and make sure you are catering to your lady's fantasies as much as your own. It was great to hear the man's point on view on whether a fetish should be kept secret or shared with your significant other. Of course each situation is unique and only you can decide for yourself, but this gives you more concrete options of testing the waters. Good luck darlings! Davina, thank you for sharing so much about your thoughts on sharing the secret of your fetish, and your personal relationship. Reading what you had to say, I understand why your wife was able to see the eroticism in cross dressing. Like I have said, keep it light…keep it fun…and make sure you are catering to your lady’s fantasies as much as your own.

It was great to hear the man’s point on view on whether a fetish should be kept secret or shared with your significant other. Of course each situation is unique and only you can decide for yourself, but this gives you more concrete options of testing the waters.

Good luck darlings!

]]> Comment on Keeping Your Fetish Secret by Davina http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/2011/11/keeping-your-fetish-secret/comment-page-1/#comment-11397 Davina Mon, 09 Jan 2012 14:00:37 +0000 http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/?p=7025#comment-11397 Wow! I am amazed and very impressed. What an extremely popular topic and an extremely popular and HOT Lady to talk with about it. :-) I started going backward and reading though your older pages and posts. You take me breath away! But this topic is of particular interest to me. It might be hard to believe but nothing makes me happier than seeing or helping other people be happy. I think happiness is contagious and the more of it we can spread around, the better place this world is. I feel bad for those who feel they have to keep their fetishes secret from their significant other but I understand it as well. I think many people see their lives as being as fragile as an egg-shell and we all know, once broken, it can never be unbroken. Once a secret is no longer a secret, well, all bets are off. Telling my wife from the get-go eliminated a lot of frustration and tension in my life that can lead to very unhealthy levels of stress. But, we can't go back in time and change things already done so I also understand where so many are forced into a situation where they feel they are in a catch-22. If I could offer any words of wisdom or help, it would be that the levels of stress and the tension that can really be painful, both physically and mentally, can be reduced by that sensation of freedom one experiences when they no longer feel they are forced to harbor those secrets. I will admit, my wife was about as vanilla as vanilla can be when we met. And when I told her, I think she was in shock for at least a day. I think girls need "time" to process this kind of thing. And I also think that the "way" you bring it up is so important. If it is in the form of a "question" as opposed to "this is how it is", I think you stand a lot better chance of acceptance if you also give them the time to think about it. For example, if you asked your wife or a girlfriend if she ever wondered what it might be like to be the one in control instead of the other way around. You could ask her if she ever wondered what it was like to be the one who was penetrating instead of the one who was being penetrated. Just a simple question, brought up at the appropriate time, and nothing that she has to consider on your time-table. Just some food for thought to get her imagination moving. It's hard for me to imagine all girls going all their lives without ever wondering what it might be like to "be the guy" and to be able to be the one in control. I like to believe that a lot of girls can get used to the idea of being the one that says, "I want to do this" or "I want you to do that". I think that if you give a girl time to think about it and especially, never confront her or put her in a situation where she is forced to make a decision on the spot, you stand a good chance of getting a girl to at least think about it. And it doesn't have to be all about your fantasies. If you are really feeling submissive and want to please her, it should be about her fantasies anyway. Instead of trying to get her to indulge your fantasies, maybe try to get her to open up and express her fantasies. The mind is a wonderful place for sex. And if you can get your girl to feel comfortable and let her know that she is safe and secure sharing anything she wants with you, then your imaginations can become unleashed and the possibilities are limitless. And I think the most important thing to remember is that these incredible fantasies don’t actually have to become public knowledge. They can be your little secret that you only share with your treasured love, and of course, the incredible Mistress Violet. ;-) Wow! I am amazed and very impressed. What an extremely popular topic and an extremely popular and HOT Lady to talk with about it. :-) I started going backward and reading though your older pages and posts. You take me breath away! But this topic is of particular interest to me.

It might be hard to believe but nothing makes me happier than seeing or helping other people be happy. I think happiness is contagious and the more of it we can spread around, the better place this world is.

I feel bad for those who feel they have to keep their fetishes secret from their significant other but I understand it as well. I think many people see their lives as being as fragile as an egg-shell and we all know, once broken, it can never be unbroken. Once a secret is no longer a secret, well, all bets are off.

Telling my wife from the get-go eliminated a lot of frustration and tension in my life that can lead to very unhealthy levels of stress. But, we can’t go back in time and change things already done so I also understand where so many are forced into a situation where they feel they are in a catch-22. If I could offer any words of wisdom or help, it would be that the levels of stress and the tension that can really be painful, both physically and mentally, can be reduced by that sensation of freedom one experiences when they no longer feel they are forced to harbor those secrets.

I will admit, my wife was about as vanilla as vanilla can be when we met. And when I told her, I think she was in shock for at least a day. I think girls need “time” to process this kind of thing. And I also think that the “way” you bring it up is so important. If it is in the form of a “question” as opposed to “this is how it is”, I think you stand a lot better chance of acceptance if you also give them the time to think about it. For example, if you asked your wife or a girlfriend if she ever wondered what it might be like to be the one in control instead of the other way around. You could ask her if she ever wondered what it was like to be the one who was penetrating instead of the one who was being penetrated. Just a simple question, brought up at the appropriate time, and nothing that she has to consider on your time-table. Just some food for thought to get her imagination moving. It’s hard for me to imagine all girls going all their lives without ever wondering what it might be like to “be the guy” and to be able to be the one in control. I like to believe that a lot of girls can get used to the idea of being the one that says, “I want to do this” or “I want you to do that”.

I think that if you give a girl time to think about it and especially, never confront her or put her in a situation where she is forced to make a decision on the spot, you stand a good chance of getting a girl to at least think about it. And it doesn’t have to be all about your fantasies. If you are really feeling submissive and want to please her, it should be about her fantasies anyway. Instead of trying to get her to indulge your fantasies, maybe try to get her to open up and express her fantasies. The mind is a wonderful place for sex. And if you can get your girl to feel comfortable and let her know that she is safe and secure sharing anything she wants with you, then your imaginations can become unleashed and the possibilities are limitless. And I think the most important thing to remember is that these incredible fantasies don’t actually have to become public knowledge. They can be your little secret that you only share with your treasured love, and of course, the incredible Mistress Violet. ;-)

]]> Comment on Keeping Your Fetish Secret by Empress Violet http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/2011/11/keeping-your-fetish-secret/comment-page-1/#comment-11395 Empress Violet Sat, 07 Jan 2012 06:24:38 +0000 http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/?p=7025#comment-11395 galaxy, you know that I am delighted to hear this! Keeping it light and fun is the key. Start with your least possibly intimidating fetish. Find a way to make it fun for the lady in your life and she will have a reason to get into that fetish too! *wink* Thank you so much for sharing this! galaxy, you know that I am delighted to hear this! Keeping it light and fun is the key. Start with your least possibly intimidating fetish. Find a way to make it fun for the lady in your life and she will have a reason to get into that fetish too! *wink*

Thank you so much for sharing this!

]]> Comment on Keeping Your Fetish Secret by galaxy http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/2011/11/keeping-your-fetish-secret/comment-page-1/#comment-11394 galaxy Sat, 07 Jan 2012 05:11:46 +0000 http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/?p=7025#comment-11394 Hey Violet. I had to share that I did 'join the worlds' with amazing success! I decided to share with my wife slowly and in a fun way my fetish side. As I thought she was skeptical, but as I laughed she got excited and asked me into the shower for what turned out to be an amazing time and incredibly hot! Thank you for bringing the topic up and getting past my uncertainty. I know it might not work for everyone, but if you can do it in a fun way the benefits can be amazing! Hey Violet.
I had to share that I did ‘join the worlds’ with amazing success!
I decided to share with my wife slowly and in a fun way my fetish side. As I thought she was skeptical, but as I laughed she got excited and asked me into the shower for what turned out to be an amazing time and incredibly hot!
Thank you for bringing the topic up and getting past my uncertainty. I know it might not work for everyone, but if you can do it in a fun way the benefits can be amazing!

]]> Comment on Keeping Your Fetish Secret by Empress Violet http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/2011/11/keeping-your-fetish-secret/comment-page-1/#comment-11393 Empress Violet Thu, 05 Jan 2012 07:26:31 +0000 http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/?p=7025#comment-11393 Welcome to my blog Matty! So good to see you here. *smile* I feel society needs to make some serious changes. Personally, I like a man who shows his emotions. Sure, I want my man to be manly, but I want him to FEEL. Now...on to the topic of vanilla relationships. They work great for two vanilla people. If you are kinky, you need a woman who is also kinky. Bottom line. Having gone through the heartache of trying to make a vanilla relationship work far too many times, I will say that you need to go where the kinky women are. Find some kinky women and then sift through to find the one who meets the rest of your needs as well.' You will find that the lifestyle, as a whole, is a very open place. Please let me know, via email, if I can help you with your search Matty! Welcome to my blog Matty! So good to see you here. *smile* I feel society needs to make some serious changes. Personally, I like a man who shows his emotions. Sure, I want my man to be manly, but I want him to FEEL.

Now…on to the topic of vanilla relationships. They work great for two vanilla people. If you are kinky, you need a woman who is also kinky. Bottom line. Having gone through the heartache of trying to make a vanilla relationship work far too many times, I will say that you need to go where the kinky women are. Find some kinky women and then sift through to find the one who meets the rest of your needs as well.’

You will find that the lifestyle, as a whole, is a very open place. Please let me know, via email, if I can help you with your search Matty!

]]> Comment on Keeping Your Fetish Secret by Matty0507 http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/2011/11/keeping-your-fetish-secret/comment-page-1/#comment-11392 Matty0507 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 03:55:57 +0000 http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/?p=7025#comment-11392 Dear Empress Violet, I love this topic, and it has always been such a difficult thing to bring up in relationships. I can relate to so much of what others have said, and I feel so badly for some of them. John, I feel for you bud. I have always been an emotional man, and it is not readily accepted in this society, let alone a lot of the things others have discussed here. I have asked for a few things in previous relationships and each woman I was with gave me that look like I was speaking Botaswanian. Honestly I have not had a relationship for almost 6 years since these rejections. These fantasies are a big part of my life, and I don't want to get involved in a "vanilla" relationship again. I almost wished that all relationships could start the way they do on LDW. Everyone is so honest in the beginning and nobody judges anyone. The women of LDW are fantastic, thanks for letting us all share our fantasies, and for accepting us for who we are. Dear Empress Violet,
I love this topic, and it has always been such a difficult thing to bring up in relationships. I can relate to so much of what others have said, and I feel so badly for some of them. John, I feel for you bud. I have always been an emotional man, and it is not readily accepted in this society, let alone a lot of the things others have discussed here. I have asked for a few things in previous relationships and each woman I was with gave me that look like I was speaking Botaswanian. Honestly I have not had a relationship for almost 6 years since these rejections. These fantasies are a big part of my life, and I don’t want to get involved in a “vanilla” relationship again. I almost wished that all relationships could start the way they do on LDW. Everyone is so honest in the beginning and nobody judges anyone. The women of LDW are fantastic, thanks for letting us all share our fantasies, and for accepting us for who we are.

]]> Comment on Keeping Your Fetish Secret by Empress Violet http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/2011/11/keeping-your-fetish-secret/comment-page-1/#comment-11391 Empress Violet Thu, 05 Jan 2012 02:30:40 +0000 http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/?p=7025#comment-11391 Hello Kevin! I really like that you did bring up your fetish with your wife. You gave her an opportunity (sounds like you gave her more than one) to participate in the fun. But that does not mean she will decide to accept that opportunity. Too bad. But yay for you for finding a new outlet to exercise your love of being cuckolded. That is something I have done in my personal life...a lot...and I enjoy it too. Happy New Year to you too Kevin!!! Hello Kevin! I really like that you did bring up your fetish with your wife. You gave her an opportunity (sounds like you gave her more than one) to participate in the fun. But that does not mean she will decide to accept that opportunity. Too bad. But yay for you for finding a new outlet to exercise your love of being cuckolded. That is something I have done in my personal life…a lot…and I enjoy it too.

Happy New Year to you too Kevin!!!

]]> Comment on Keeping Your Fetish Secret by Kevin http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/2011/11/keeping-your-fetish-secret/comment-page-1/#comment-11390 Kevin Wed, 04 Jan 2012 22:46:29 +0000 http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/?p=7025#comment-11390 I don't keep mine secret, but I don't bring it up anymore. My fantasies all revolve around my wife sleeping around with much bigger guys and learning that she needs it big, cuckolding me either behind my back or openly, either way it turns me on. We talked about it for a little while and she would actually initiate some fantasizing about it, but then she decided she didn't like talking about it anymore, so I don't bring it up. But I still fantasize about it constantly. Hope you had a great holiday, happy 2012 EV Kevin I don’t keep mine secret, but I don’t bring it up anymore. My fantasies all revolve around my wife sleeping around with much bigger guys and learning that she needs it big, cuckolding me either behind my back or openly, either way it turns me on. We talked about it for a little while and she would actually initiate some fantasizing about it, but then she decided she didn’t like talking about it anymore, so I don’t bring it up. But I still fantasize about it constantly. Hope you had a great holiday, happy 2012 EV
Kevin

]]> Comment on Reflecting on the Season by Empress Violet http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/2011/12/reflecting-on-the-season-2/comment-page-1/#comment-11388 Empress Violet Sun, 01 Jan 2012 00:29:39 +0000 http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/?p=7047#comment-11388 Hello there galaxy. *smile* Thank you for stopping by my blog and leaving such a lovely comment. I appreciate that. You and I already rang in tt arhe New Year. Woohoo! If that is an indication of how 2012 is going to be...woohoo!!!!! Hello there galaxy. *smile* Thank you for stopping by my blog and leaving such a lovely comment. I appreciate that. You and I already rang in tt arhe New Year. Woohoo! If that is an indication of how 2012 is going to be…woohoo!!!!!

]]> Comment on Keeping Your Fetish Secret by Empress Violet http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/2011/11/keeping-your-fetish-secret/comment-page-1/#comment-11387 Empress Violet Sun, 01 Jan 2012 00:11:12 +0000 http://www.personalpleasurecalls.com/?p=7025#comment-11387 Hello sweet Davina. You just made my day. Thank you! Over the time we have communicated, I have come to realize what a wonderful woman you are married to. You are in what many sissies would consider an ideal situation. So you are right to cherish your wife and the incredible relationship you have. I would definitely keep this fantasy to yourself for now. *smile* But thank you for sharing it with me. I am glowing with pleasure right now! xox Hello sweet Davina. You just made my day. Thank you! Over the time we have communicated, I have come to realize what a wonderful woman you are married to. You are in what many sissies would consider an ideal situation. So you are right to cherish your wife and the incredible relationship you have.

I would definitely keep this fantasy to yourself for now. *smile* But thank you for sharing it with me. I am glowing with pleasure right now!

xox

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